Both Judaism and Christianity (and Islam) developed there attitudes toward sexuality from being exposed to environments that were filled with sexual debauchery: Mesopotamia and the Roman empire. In the case of Mesopotamia, there was the practice of temple prostitution, the worship of the sacred prostitute goddess, Hora, male homosexuality, and festivals that ended in communal orgies. The Greco-Roman world borrowed some of these cults and festivals, as well as having their own pederastic ones, and by the late Roman period society was pansexual, allowing all conceivable unions and activities. In reaction to these societies, Judaism and Christianity, already misogynistically patriarchal, vilified sex in their religious thought and practices. In Christendom, where the church praised celibacy over marriage, prior to the Protestant Reformation, sex was considered a necessary evil only to be enjoyed by men (and prostitutes).
Western sexuality has rarely been associated with the divine, indeed quite the contrary. There has never been any sense of sexual balance or balance at all in Western thought. Before the 1960s' sexual revolution, homosexuality was classed as a mental disorder; today, Today, homosexuality is considered a sexual preference, a sexual orientation, and a natural variation. Tomorrow, the American Psychiatric Association will reclassify Pedophilia as a sexual preference. The West is slowly removing all restriction on what is done, and whom it is done to. It is returning to the Greco-Roman standards, and fully justifying it with its modern scientific and political doctrines.
I find it very disturbing that a society that vacilates and still has not determined the role and consistent definition of sexuality and its appropriate behavior wants to dictate to the world what is proper. First Western feminists attacked female circumcision, viewing it as an attempt by Afrikan men to suppress the Afrikan woman's sexual expression. Now, the Western government want to tie aid to Afrikan countries to an Afrikan nation's civil right issues.
I have always found the idea that an Afrikan woman's sexuality was suppress strange, especially when the West has always condemned Afrikan sexual expression as generally being lewd or ribald. This stood in contrast to the idea of repression. Sexuality is celebrated in Afrika: You see it in the dance; you hear it in traditional songs; and you see in traditional art. Moreover, Afrikan men and women are renown for knowledge of herbs that increase sexual desire and prolong a man's stamina. Even in the Afrikan Diaspora one see the Afrikan’s celebration of sexuality, be in carnival, social dancing, or the likes. None of these things suggest female sexual repression; The Afrikan woman is an equal participant and reciprocator. So then, where does the idea that Afrikan men try to repress the sexuality of women come from? It is Western history, attitudes, and behaviors being universalized and projected onto Afrika.
The West has even pointed to the absence of a word that means orgasm in Afrikan cultures as evidence of suppression. The West has went so far as to say that women in Afrika do not experience orgasm. Furthermore, the practice of female circumcision has been sited for this lack of orgasm.
There are two problems with this line of thinking: first, there are cultures that have a word for orgasm, and as I pointed out in an earlier blog, tain, is the San word for it and the San are the oldest humans on the planet! Next, most Afrikan use more than one word to express the concept of orgasm!!! Moreover there are studies that show that Afrikan women who have experience infibulation, the most treacherous of female circumcision operations, that many of them if not most continue to desire sex, enjoy it, and experience orgasm. Yes, women can still experience orgasm without the clitoris.
There are three reasons for this: One is, the clitoris is part of a structure that contains inner parts that include the clitoral crura, the corpus cavernosum, which together with other structures contributes to female excitation. Hence, the “inner” clitoral structures remain in tact untouched by a clitoredectomy. Second, there is an internal area within the vagina, Westerner have identified it as the G-spot, which is actually part of the internal clitoris that can trigger orgasm along with a secretion. This secretion was talked about in my blog on Kunyaza. Thirdly, as an elder who had experienced infibulation said: “Of course she enjoys sex! What woman doesn't? The Pharaonic cannot change that! She says that no matter what they cut away from you, no one can change that!" In the end, the brain is the largest sexual organ.
The notion that Afrikan culture and women were unaware of female orgasm and that it was not an expectation of sexual intercourse is another case of Western projection. It is reprehensible that the West questions whether traditional Afrikan cultures were interested in female sexual pleasure just because Europeans have rarely been concerned with satisfying their women.
The latest sexual imposition by the West is homosexuality, which they have connected to a supposed interest in human rights, while they continue to cause poverty, and inequity in their wake. And now, to suggest Afrikan aid be predicate upon their cultural taste and sexual mores, is the continuation of white supremacy its cultural intrusions.
Afrikan people must reject ideas coming from the West that do not reflect our worldview, history, and culture. The Chinweizu query, “When did the colonizer become our friend?" must be the underlying question we must answer with a resounding, "he is not our friend," and understand that he will continue to exploit the people and resources of Afrika, so long as we let him. We must especially reject his vacillating, unbalance and unhealthy notions regarding human sexuality, especially when they are contrary to what Afrikans have realized centuries ago—and that is the role of man and woman must be reciprocal, and central in the family. And this includes sexual reciprocity as well.
P.S. Maybe our passions, sexual expression, and sexual fulfillment is unique. Hell, our worldview and culture is!